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  I was recently asked by a female, “Do guys really care about women’s imperfections?”
Yes. Yes we do. But not without cause.
Women have it hard. I say that without a trace of doubt. And the reasons are many. Menstrual cycles. Child birth. Society’s request you look physically attractive. Fallopian tubes. Placenta. Yes, I just went there. And no, I don’t need to say any more. Let’s be real; you got the short end of the stick.  But guys have problems too. As guys – the hunters and brut dominating forces we are often perceived to be – we must have the balls to approach you with a good deal of confidence in ourselves, initiate a conversation and set ourselves apart from every other guy who has hit on you; an act sometimes hard to do with your posse of sour-looking friends rolling their eyes and sucking their teeth when we humble ourselves and tell you, all bullshit aside, that we think you're pretty.
Hopefully, you too won't roll your eyes and laugh in our face. Maybe, just maybe, if you've had enough Cosmopolitans, just like they do on Sex and the City, then you might give us your number. And that possibility is why we pursue. Rejection hurts, but not as much as loneliness. Then we have to call you, but not too soon...we don't want to look desperate, even though we are desperate. You might not be aware, but we’ve been making unfulfilling love to our hand for the past two months. But we can’t wait too long because we don't want some other douchebag, probably a guy with spiked hair wearing super-skinny jeans, swooping in on you. So, after all the crap, we talk to you in about four days and set up a date.  It’s here we take note of your perfections and imperfections. We perform a cost-benefit analysis to see what we can stand. To us males, dating is like playing Texas Hold’Em… with your flaws:
I’ll see your deep voice and raise you a nervous tic. I’ll see that tic and raise a faint, yet noticeable lisp. I fold. Too rich for my blood. So yes, we pick up on things. But don't lie, girls. You do it too. It’s not so much that we are looking for perfection – we know there are flaws. And yes, we know we have flaws too. We are really trying to see if the date is worth the trouble. Do I want to see this person again? Can I put up with the annoying laugh? Can I stand the lazy eye? Is her hairy chin going to outweigh an (allegedly) small penis? If the answer is yes, then congratulations. You made it through date #1. Chances are, though, that if you are obsessing about something, it’s something you don’t want around. Get outta my kitchen. Your bushy eyebrows are not welcome here. We all judge, and that’s fine. In an effort to stabilize our own lives, we sacrifice the sanity of others - it’s a cycle that needs no explanation. My advice: buy some chips, order a drink, and sit down for the long haul. This is one game of poker you may never stop playing. |
The Josh
